I Was Tired Of People Breaking My Heart, So I Fell In Love With These Things Instead
Loveprom
Dec. 29, 2018
I recently realized that I was putting too much of my heart into connections with people that would inevitably end more often than not. That’s when I discovered that there were more reliable things that I could fall in love with that wouldn’t let me down.
1. My Career Became Just As Important To Me As A Partner.
I’ve always been passionate about my career, but I definitely imagined my future to include a steady romantic partner. However, I eventually came to the conclusion that I was OK with a life that completely revolved around my career. Society makes us think that a life alone is a life unfulfilled, but that simply isn’t true.
2. Finding Time For A Hobby Wasn’t Easy But It Was Necessary.
Falling in love with my work was the first step to happiness, but I knew that I needed something more relaxed to focus my energy on. Finding a chill pastime that I wasn’t being paid for—watercolor painting, in this instance—actually made me more productive and creatively satisfied.
3. I Fell In Love With My Own Creations.
Not only was I spending more time producing art and working on things that brought me joy, but I was also proud of myself for the things I created. I stopped being overcritical of my art and I started embracing it instead. That self-acceptance brought me a whole new level of fulfillment.
4. I Realized That Artists From The Past Would Never Let Me Down.
It’s dangerous to fall in love with an icon or celebrity because (as we learned from the #MeToo movement) they’re human and will ultimately disappoint you. The great thing about authors, musicians, and movie stars that are already gone is that they can’t do anything now to change your perception of them. Falling in love with classic painters and poets gave me some much-needed emotional stability.
5. I’ve Always Enjoyed Talking To People, But I Learned That Silence Could Be Even Better.
It’s normal to crave human connection through conversation, but it’s also important to be comfortable with silence. Silence is an underappreciated gift and being alone is the perfect opportunity to absorb and take advantage of it. It gives you more time to think and a generally calmer perspective.
